I received an email from AYSO soccer and they are looking for coaches. Immediately, I thought I might coach my 7-year old daughter’s team if I could get a friend to assist me. When I mentioned it to my husband, he said, “ABSOLUTELY NOT!” I don’t really blame him.
A few years ago I was volunteering for everything. I had two leadership roles; as a mom room for one child’s class and the Girl Scout leader for another child among the many other volunteer jobs I was doing, all with a small toddler at home. By the end of that year, I was a disaster. While I enjoyed being with my children and getting to know their peers, there were many parts of the volunteer jobs that were not a lot of fun. Plus, I still had all the shopping, cooking, cleaning, paperwork, etc. to handle at home.
One of the reasons that I stay home with my children is so that I can provide an organized and calm home life for my children and for my husband. I want to decorate for every holiday. I want to have a home-cooked meal on the table most nights. I want the kids to come home to the aroma of cookies baking in the oven. This was not happening.
In recent years, I still volunteer a lot in my children’s classrooms but without taking a leadership role. This allows me more flexibility. I am also focusing on my children, their academics, extra-circular activities and sports. Oh, did I mention school projects. As your children get older, you will see the projects they are assigned and realize there is no way they can complete this projects without help from you and many trips to the craft store.
Kudos to all the moms that step up and take the leadership roles. It is great experience for moms that are out of the work force because you can put it on your resume if you decide to re-enter the work force one day. I am sure that I will again take on a leadership role but for now, I will enjoy being a a worker bee instead of a queen bee.